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  • How Can I Help My Pet Who Is Grieving?

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    When you lose a pet, you may find yourself struggling with your grief. Even months later, you may really be struggling. If you are, I recently wrote an article about it that you may want to check out.

    However, you may not realize that your pet is grieving as well. I recently wrote an article about it, and you can read it below.

    Therefore, if you believe your pets are grieving, it is up to you to help them. Here are some tips.

    Let them see the body. 

    Animals need closure, just like we do, so it is important to let your other animals see the body of their deceased friend. Although your pet may not understand what is happening, it may help them feel more at ease.

    Give everyone time to grieve. 

    The grieving process can be quite overwhelming. You may notice that some of your pets aren’t really sure what is going on. Some may spend days and weeks looking for their lost friend, while others may try to take over that pet’s position.

    Don’t mess with the routine. 

    Dogs and cats thrive on routine, and you should do everything that you can to ensure that the routine doesn’t change while everyone is grieving. Continue feeding at the same time, and going for walks like normal. Make sure that if you came home from work and played for an hour, you continue doing this.

    This is not the time to get a new pet. 

    Though many people rush right out to get a new dog or cat, the truth is that things need to settle down in your household before you think about adding more stress. When things calm down, you can then consider getting another pet.

    It may be the perfect time to try something new. 

    While everyone is unsettled, it may be the perfect time to take your dogs to a dog park you’ve been wanting to visit for a while. You may want to try a new food or toy that you think everyone will love. You may even want to consider taking your cat on your next vacation.

    No matter what you do, it is essential that you make time to spend with the ones you have left. 

    Not only will it help you, but it will also bring comfort to your pets. Make sure that you find time every day to cuddle and play.

    That being said, you also don’t want to reinforce bad behaviors. If your dog is pacing around the house, you shouldn’t just pick him or her up. Your dog may learn that, in order to get your attention, he or she just has to pace around. Instead, wait until your pet is calm before picking them up.

    If your cat is getting in your face and meowing, gently push it away until it is quiet. Then, you can feel free to give them the attention that is needed.

    Don’t be afraid to talk to your veterinarian. 

    If your pet is really struggling, you may need to take them to your veterinarian. If he or she quits eating, starts vomiting, or develops diarrhea, you should seek medical attention immediately.

    Some behavioral specialists may be able to help you. They specialize in helping patients who struggle with their behavior, and it may be just what your household needs!

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    Just as you need time to grieve, your pets do, too. In fact, you may notice that they are sulking around the house and looking for their missing friend. However, you need to make sure that you give them some time to act differently while they are grieving. You shouldn’t punish them while they are dealing with their feelings.

    That being said, you also need to continue with your normal routine and spend plenty of time with them. They need your comfort as much as you need theirs! This is NOT the time to get a new pet! There is enough stress in your household; you don’t need to add anymore.

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    Please understand that the information provided is for educational and informational purposes only. Even though I am a veterinary professional, this blog is not a substitute for professional veterinary advice. 

    If your pet is experiencing a medical problem or concern, please contact a veterinary health professional immediately.

  • Are You Struggling With the Loss of Your Pet?

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    Whether you have made the decision to put your pet to sleep or he or she died suddenly while sleeping, getting over the death of a pet is never easy. It doesn’t even matter if you had him or her for five years or fifteen. You (and your family) need time to grieve.

    Still struggling? Here are some tips that may help you cope with your loss.

    Give yourself plenty of time. 

    Grief isn’t something that happens overnight. In fact, it can take months for some. It can also hit you like a ton of bricks once in a while, meaning that you may never get over your loss.

    For this reason, you need to give yourself time to grieve and to feel the pain. If it takes you longer than most, that is how you cope. There is nothing wrong with that. Take all the time you need to process your feelings.

    Don’t be afraid to show your emotions. 

    You will likely experience a range of emotions, from anger to sadness. You may face feelings of depression and may be asking if you did the right thing (if you had to make the decision to put your pet to sleep).

    Don’t be afraid to talk about your feelings. You don’t want to bottle them up, because this will only exacerbate the problem in the future.

    Don’t forget about your other pets. 

    Just because you lost one of your pets doesn’t mean that you can forget about your other ones. In fact, many of them may also be grieving!

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    You need to ensure that you spend plenty of time with them, giving them extra love and attention during this challenging time. They are going to need you as much as you need them while you are working your way through your grief!

    Find a way to say goodbye. 

    Unlike people, we don’t hold a funeral or memorial services to help us say goodbye to those we love. However, if you think it would help, you may want to do something for your pet. Invite your friends and family over to spend a few hours remembering your beloved pet.

    Don’t forget to move on. 

    Many people struggle to move on after their pet dies. They almost get stuck in their grief, which can be very detrimental to their lives. You need to find a way to move on with your life.

    It may also be helpful to consult a professional. 

    Many people have no problem seeing a therapist if they lose someone who is very dear to them. However, doing the same when their pet dies may seem a little silly. That being said, it is much better to talk to someone, so that you don’t get stuck in your grief!

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    When you lose your pet, it takes time to deal with your grief. However, if you don’t deal with it, you may find yourself struggling years later. You are allowed to feel everything that you do, from anger and sadness to utter depression.

    That being said, you can’t forget about your other pets. They are likely to be going through the stages of grief also. Make sure to spend extra time with them, as they will also find ways to move on without their best friend.

    You may also want to spend some time with your family and friends thinking about your beloved pet. They may miss your pet as much as you do, so this may help all of you say goodbye.

    You should also not be afraid to seek help if you need it. You might not think anything of seeing a therapist if someone you loved died, but you may not want to do the same when your pet dies. However, it may really help you find a way to move on, while still remembering your beloved pet.

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    Please note that the information provided is for educational and informational purposes only. Although I am a veterinary professional, this blog should not be used as a substitute for professional veterinary advice.

    If your pet is experiencing a medical problem or concern, please contact a veterinary health professional immediately.